Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. (Song of Songs 2:7 NIV)
I have been reading on the Song of Songs and was quite puzzled by this verse. It was also repeated in the book at chapter 3 verse 5.
The wisest man that ever lived says do not arouse love until it so desires.
I have asked another blogger friend about the meaning of this verse in its simplest context. He said that this means that we do not have to insist on a romantic love relationship if it is not yet the right time.
But my point in asking was actually due to the personal nagging questions in my heart. The phrase “…until it so desires” intrigued me so much.
When is that “until it so desires?”
The texts preceding and succeeding the verse in question does not outrightly express a timetable, expiration date or deadline. This puts us into a more deep insight onto the time that is being described in the verse.
I remember here the very beautiful and profound verses from Ecclesiastes which talk about time (you may want to read a related article on this here) . As human beings, we have limited capacity to know what will happen the day after today. How much more predict when will love desire to be awakened by us!
But this should not frustrate us. For how uncertain is this time thing for us, we are, on the other hand, certain of some things.
- Today will be a thing of yesterday. Everything in the here and now will pass. As such, we are encouraged by Jesus not to even worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. The only portion of time that we have a control of is in the NOW. No one can change the past. It was already buried in the pages of history. No one has seen the future. It is hidden by God. But we are living in the thing called “Today.” We have to live today with the context that the seconds, minutes, hours are ticking away to the past and we cannot do anything to prevent it. What we can do is to make sure that the way we live today will be a learning experience for us as we reminisce of the past. Be a good steward now of your singlehood.
- Your yesterday speaks a lot about your choices. Following through the concept in #1, if we will try to list an inventory of our past choices, we will understand the patterns of how we live. Are we improving? Are we destroying ourselves? Have you used your time and gift of singlehood wisely and meaningfully?
- Your choices will influence how your tomorrow will turn out. Knowing these things, we have the opportunity to influence our future. We cannot see our future unless we live before it. In Proverbs, Solomon speaks of the ways of life of a wise person. A wise person plans. He knows that what he does today will impact his tomorrow. You know you can be a good husband or wife to the one God kept for you by the choices you make today for your tomorrow.
- God is good and faithful. Let me expound on this under the pretense of my 2nd question below.
And when that time comes, what could awaken love?
Love alone could awaken love.
In 1 John 4:19, we read this:
We love because he first loved us.
God is good and faithful. He has not only proven His love for us through the greatest gift He sent us in the form of His Beloved Son on the cross. But because He is Love Himself, we can trust His heart.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:7-8 NIV)
Not until you meet God Himself as the author of love and experienced His love first hand, you can never awaken love in its truest sense.
How enduring is this love of Jesus that He patiently waits for us until now. He patiently waits for our love for Him be awakened.
I pray that each of us may find this Great Love that awakens love. And when that time comes, may we all experience the beauty and the joy of True Love.